The A-Lister
We all love knowing the tea about celebrities these days...who's dating who, who’s pregnant with what, who's wearing what. The unobtainable image these people set consume so much space in people’s lives. I for one love following and hearing about celebrity drama, it's so accessible with social media these days. Because of COVID-19 I’ve definitely been too invested in celebs these days, and I know many others have as well, so I thought it would be a perfect time to interview this person on their journey dating a celebrity. It’s time to fucking talk about the truth of dating a celebrity in the public eye.
Tell us a little about this person.
“He’s a pretty well known athlete (at least in my opinion). He’s in his early 30s now and plays his sport professionally, but he also is pretty involved with other well known celebs. I can’t get too into detail about stuff because the NDA that I signed is valid for 3 years and I still have 2 years left. But I think he is a decently well known person, he’s not like Tom Brady level famous but definitely well known.”
How did you guys meet/start dating?
“I was in the city near my college at a bar and he was there as well. I knew nothing about sports, never played them and never watched them. I just thought he was cute and I was probably 4 drinks deep so I just started to flirt with him at the bar. We totally hit it off and I ended up going home with him. When we got back to his apartment I had to sign a bunch of papers to even enter his apartment and show my license to 3 different people. I was so confused obviously, I just thought maybe he was a high up business man who is super type A or something. When we got into his apartment I saw a bunch of his gear and made the assumption he was an athlete (it was also evident one he took his clothes off)
”So for about 3-4 months we would talk and see each other when we were both in town. I was super into him but he had this ex-girlfriend who is sort of well known and I was totally the side piece for those months. I don’t think he necessarily ended it with her to be with me, but once he cut things off with her we got more serious.”
What was it like dating a famous person?
“It was a fucking whirlwind. In the beginning he would just fly back or fly me out to see me which I thought was already beyond, but that was just the beginning. I had to sign NDA’s for so many different things. I couldn’t be on his social media and he couldn’t be on mine because his managers thought it wasn’t great for his image at the time (he was getting traded and didn’t want to be seen with a girl I guess). So as this man and I are slowly starting to fall in love, as I’m seeing a future with him, I was hurting inside to keep it a secret and essentially live a double life.
”I think people don’t always understand the role fame plays in people. There’s always exceptions obviously, but I watched fame take over this man’s life (and mine kind of). When we started dating he wasn’t as well known as he is now, but while we dated that fame grew exponentially. In the beginning it was his job and it was me. By the end it was his image, the drugs, the drinking, the cheating, and his job.”
How were you living a double life?
“Due to the amount of NDA’s and secrets I had to keep from everyone it literally felt like I had two lives: one with him and one with the other 99% of my life. It was terrible and unfair, love is so important and should be a part of your life.
“I will say though, once we broke up I did tell people about what happened (like my close friends and therapist), but not my family. The relationship was such a whirlwind and I was so hurt that I didn’t want to be like ‘oh hey mom and dad I just got a year of my life fucked over due to a man’. I was super embarrassed honestly.”
What was the party scene like at that level?
“At first it was insanely fun. I was at a point in my life where I loved to party, I mean that’s how we met basically. I met super cool people and had great experiences that I cherish more than the relationship itself. But the parties got bigger and more often, which meant he and I’s relationship just felt like it was about the party. I had never touched a drug before being with him, and I tried so many things. I don’t regret that but like, if you're going to do drugs don’t do it for a man you know?
“I don’t necessarily think he has a drug or alcohol addiction but he definitely is addicted to the party scenes. By the end of our relationship all he cared about was his image, which made no sense because he would be so fucked up at parties and events. It was embarrassing. I wasn’t at big promotional events because I was obviously kept a secret but I still went with him to most other things.”
How did that work, going to parties with him but not being allowed to talk about him to the people in your life?
“It got to be too much honestly. It was great to meet the people he surrounded himself with, they knew me and I knew them well by the end of it, but there was still an empty hole in the relationship since my parents couldn’t even meet him. It sucked and I think I really resented him for that.
“But the parties were fun. It also was somewhat beneficial for me because I was fresh out of college and new to the job world and I got to meet some awesome people. I didn’t go out and come home with a new job ever, but I got to talk to some cool people for sure.
”The party scene just took over which was pretty heartbreaking. I had found out he was seeing his ex (the one who is also moderately famous I’d say). It didn’t surprise me though. He would go train for weeks for his job, play a game, and regardless if he won or lost he’d manage to black out with multiple drugs. It was sad honestly, I couldn’t help him. It just hurt me to watch.”
When did you split? How did that go?
“We broke up because I couldn’t do it anymore. He eventually admitted he was seeing his ex for a portion of the time we spent together which was hard. I was over the bullshit and wanted to be single.
”You always see all these celebs in perfect relationships but it's just not the case. I would watch people cheat on each other in the middle of a party, people that have millions of followers and are well known. It’s a weird truth. There are so many celebrities with perfect images who struggle the same way this man did/still is. It's sad.”
What advice would you tell yourself years ago when you two began seeing each other?
“To not get sucked into the clout of it. I thought the NDA’s would fizzle out and I could spend my life with this person but it obviously never did. I didn’t love him for his fame, but I loved the idea of being in love with someone like that I guess. He was just wrong for me and that’s all. It sucks but its life and love is never perfect.”
